Good relationships with partners, friends, parents, siblings and work colleagues, are an important part of our lives. Satisfying relationships enhance our emotional and psychological wellbeing. When we experience problems in our interpersonal relationships, it can cause us considerable distress and unhappiness. If you are experiencing problems in any of your relationships, psychological therapy or relationship counselling can help.
Relationships – Issues Experienced by Couples
The following is a list of common problems that impact on couples’ relationships? Do any of these apply to you?
- Do you feel that you and your partner are distant or that your relationship is stagnant?
- Do you feel that your partner does not nurture the relationship, or make you a priority?
- Do you feel that there is an imbalance of power in your relationship?
- Do you feel that you are always ‘giving in’ to keep the peace, or to maintain the relationship?
- Do you feel that you are not spending sufficient time together or doing enough together as a couple?
- Are you in a relationship where your partner is emotionally unavailable and ‘not there’ for you?
- Do you have frequent arguments?
- Do you find it difficult to reach a satisfactory resolution when there is conflict?
- Are you having difficulties expressing how you feel and what you need in your relationship?
- When you do express your needs in your relationship, do you feel that your message is not being heard?
- Do you feel you have lost yourself and your own identity in the relationship?
- Are you in a relationship with a partner who is emotionally, verbally, mentally, financially, physically, socially, or sexually abusive?
- Are you in an unhappy relationship and finding it hard to leave due to a fear of hurting the other, a fear of being alone, not wanting to break up the family unit, a fear of the unknown, or for other reasons?
Relationships – Issues Experienced by Individuals
The following is a list of common difficulties that individuals face in their interpersonal relationships? Do any of these apply to you?
- Do you have difficulty in forming healthy and satisfying relationships?
- Do you struggle to communicate effectively?
- Do you seek to please people and avoid expressing what you really want and feel?
- Do you have a fear of rejection?
- Do you have a fear of intimacy or making a commitment, and either avoid people or push people away?
- Do you have a history of repeatedly becoming involved with abusive, controlling, emotionally unavailable people, or people who constantly let you down?
- As an adult, are you still seeking the approval of parents or fearful of disappointing parents, and finding it difficult to make decisions based on what is in your best interests?
- Are you self-critical, lacking in confidence, and feel unworthy of loving relationships?
Psychological Treatment for Relationships
As a Clinical Psychologist with substantial experience in working in this area, I can help you with your interpersonal difficulties and to achieve more satisfying relationships. I provide Psychological Therapy (a talking therapy also referred to as psychotherapy) and relationship counselling in a safe, supportive and caring environment, utilising a range of evidence-based therapeutic interventions tailored to suit your specific needs. I use an integrative approach and draw on interventions from therapy models such as Cognitive-Behavioural, Interpersonal, Person-Centered, Humanistic, and Psychodynamic (amongst others).
Benefits of Treatment for Relationships
I can help you to:
- learn the skills to improve existing relationships and create new relationships
- learn how to form more satisfying and healthy relationships – ones that are based on mutual respect, honesty, where personal boundaries are not violated, that are free of power struggles, not based on dependency needs, and reciprocal
- improve communication skills – learn how to be more open, honest, direct, and assertive
- learn how to handle and resolve conflict or disagreements in a more constructive manner
- improve parenting skills
- overcome fears of intimacy/commitment and increase the level of intimacy
- resolve thoughts on separation or divorce – decide whether the relationship can be improved or needs to end
- handle relationship breakdown and separation – strengthen your coping skills, overcome fears, work through grief, overcome the effects of trauma associated with living in an abusive relationship, and/or rebuild your life
- make the transition to a parenting relationship following a separation or divorce when children are involved
- improve your self-esteem and self-confidence so that you believe that you deserve to have positive and loving relationships.
How we can help
- enrich your life by learning how to develop loving, healthy and reciprocal relationships
- improve communication skills – learn to express thoughts and feelings in a direct and assertive way
- resolve relationship conflicts more constructively
- change beliefs and behaviours having an negative impact on your relationship
- improve self esteem and confidence, and strengthen your sense of self
- overcome obstacles to good relationships, such as fear of intimacy or a fear of commitment
- improve your ability to cope with a relationship breakdown and separation
- improve your emotional and psychological wellbeing through creating positive relationships with others
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